Meet Alli founder of Motivating Mum.
How did Motivating Mum come about and why?
I started my business after sitting at home one day on my own, looking after bub and trying to run my coaching business. It was quite isolating and lonely, particularly as my life BC (before children) was taken up with loads of travel and working in Hospitality. I decided to start a Businessmums’ Networking Lunch – in an attempt to get out and get some intelligent conversation and also expand my network. It turned out there were a lot of mums at home feeling just as I was! It was then that I knew my business needed to be all about providing these types of events for mums – to help them, not only in business, but in developing a support network that left them knowing they weren’t alone.
Can you tell our readers a little about your business and what you aims and goals are.
At Motivating Mum, I do absolutely everything and anything I can to help mums in business achieve their dreams as efficiently, smoothly and happily as possible.
Mums can get inspiration and education through phone mentoring with established mums in business, affordable business services (like retail contact, blog management, social media scheduling, press releases) and online forum and more.
Along with my Associates, we also run Biz Mums Clubs all across Melbourne and also in Geelong, Shepparton, Sydney, Brissy and coming to Perth. I also run many one-off events in Melbourne including workshops, networking mornings and my Annual Brilliant Biz Mum Expo and Awards. The Awards are open to any mums in biz (or mums at heart) and are all judged – no social media voting!
I take my role as a help and support to mums very seriously and am always around to refer great suppliers, be an ear to vent or cry to or just send in the right direction.
Describe your workplace to us…
Here is a picture of me at my in my workplace.
How do you juggle working and a family?
I work at night – a lot! I also have my oldest in school and youngest in three days of kinder so that helps. I am also excellent at switching from Mummy to work mode – as soon as I sit at the computer I am all systems go (even if it’s just for 10 min to do something like write these answers) and then I am up again in Mummy mode playing with the gals.
I am also ridiculously organised. I have systems and processes for everything in the home and work, everything has its place and this saves a lot of time and energy. Lastly, I am the queen of organising play dates – the month of Jan is filled with me having friends over and sending my kids off for a play! The year is very much the same – the time I can claw back for work while both my gals are having a play is invaluable.
Do you think parenting is different from when you were raised? How?
Yes! Completely different! I don’t ever remember my parents taking time out of their day to just sit and play with me. They went to work, did the housework, cooked etc and I played with my sister – outside, a lot! Nowadays, I am always taking time out to just play with the girls, take them to play centres, swimming pools, parks etc. I am also much more involved in their lives. I remember very vividly that I didn’t even have a conversation with my parents about my Uni choices, my future or anything – I just did it all myself. That will not be happening with my girls!
Have your own self expectations changed since having children? How?
Even when my friends were planning in High School what age they would be having kids and getting married – I was always the one saying I would do neither! For this reason, I had absolutely no expectations of myself as a parent – when my daughters arrived, I just mothered in the way that worked for me. It also helped that I am a pretty relaxed person and also, having trained as a life coach, am very aware of how having expectations can really put pressure on you. So the answer to the above would be – I have definitely changed but it was pretty seamless as I just went with the flow.
Can you walk us through a typical day for you…
7.30am – wake up and get the kids ready for school/kinder
8.45 – drop at school and then drop at kinder
9.15 – start work. This could include going to a Biz Mums Club, meeting someone or just working in front of my computer
12.00 – pop on Dr Phil and watch it while working
2.00 – eat lunch quickly as I realise I have worked through and it’s nearly school pick up!
3.30 – if I haven’t organised play dates for kiddies so I can keep working then I head off to pick up
4.30 – get kids home for a play or watch TV while I make dinner, do dishes at the same time (I refuse to do any cleaning during the day while I am working)
6.00 – dinner
6.30 – baths and reading
7.00 – watch TV with kids or they play or we do more reading
8.00 – bed for kids and I am on the computer again (most nights) until aprox 11pm/12am
11.00/12.00 – go to bed swearing that I’ll get to bed earlier the next night!
What is one resource that has kept you sane and helped you on your journey of motherhood? Eg book, person, website, etc.
Me! I’ve kept me sane. I’ve seen friends turned inside out trying to follow parenting books to the letter. I’ve seen friends stressed following what websites say as their experience is not that outlined on the screen. So I have consciously chosen not to read anything and to listen to me and what my gut says. I have also consciously chosen to ignore guilt. I refuse to feel guilty for anything. Instead, I credit myself with doing the absolute best job that I can, given my individual situation.
And one tip for us all on keeping it real…
Don’t compare yourself to others, it’s not real. It’s 85% their marketing (or what they’re showing to the world) and 15% your projecting on to them x